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Chapter 4. Why Me, Lord, Why Me?—The Man... > It's Probably not Personal - Pg. 36

Why Me, Lord, Why Me?--The Manager's Burden 36 It's Probably not Personal Just to put your mind at ease, there are very few managers who are free of difficult people, so don't feel so darn special if you have a few of them around. The truth is, if you don't have difficult em- ployees, a difficult boss, or difficult customers, you are either dead or completely oblivious to what is going on around you. Neither of those scenarios is likely to enhance your career advancement. From the Manager's Desk Don't overreact when faced with attacks and behaviors that seem aimed at destroying you. That may not be the motivation at all. Don't react too quickly and fight. Don't beat yourself up for causing the problem. Let's put this in perspective by saying that people who behave in difficult ways come with the territory of being human and being a manager. It's perfectly possible that your particular difficult person has nothing against you personally, or is reacting to a situation and targeting you as the cause, even if you've had nothing to do with it. For example, both you and a co-worker apply for a promotion to the manager position. Congratula-