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Chapter 5. Keeping Your Feet on the Grou... > Using Self-Talk to Stay Balanced - Pg. 52

Keeping Your Feet on the Ground with Difficult People · words and thoughts of helplessness. This kind of self-talk is more likely to make you angrier, more emotional, and less in balance. To be more specific, what do these statements sound like in your head? · · · · · · What an idiot Jane is! I wish this person would smarten up. Man, he drives me crazy! Oh, no, now I have to go talk to Fred. Maybe he'll quit; that's the only hope. This is stupid. I can't do anything with Herb. 52 Do these sound familiar? Most people use these at one time or another. Are there ones not listed here that you use? It's important to identify your own self-talk patterns and habits. Positive, Constructive Self-Talk Positive self-talk helps you deal with difficult situations because it relates to problem solving and the possibility of finding solutions and other positive results that you might create. Some general examples include ... · reminding yourself the other person may have a valid opinion. · focusing on the possibility of a solution. · realizing there are two sides, yours and the other person's. · looking at problem situations as a challenge rather than something to dread.