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Chapter 24. Getting Less Difficult—Words... > Getting Back to Behavior—the Startin... - Pg. 254

Getting Less Difficult--Words and Deeds 254 There are two ways to go about changing yourself. One is to try to remake your personality or alter your character so others will find you less difficult. This is the stuff that New Year's resolutions and therapy sessions are made of--"I need to become more considerate" or "patient" or "understanding." Unfortunately, those kinds of resolutions rarely bear fruit, and therapy sessions may not be that effective either (it depends). This Won't Work! Don't make resolutions to change your personality and expect them to work. Making those kinds of resolutions may give you a sense of self-righteousness until, of course, nothing happens. Then you feel stupid. The bottom line is that staring into your belly button and contemplating your own personality doesn't portend much chance of changing anything. I don't think there's anything bad about it, but don't deceive yourself. This kind of self-analysis is like thinking over and over, "I must quit smoking." And we know how many people say that but don't do anything about it. The second way to become less difficult and be seen as less difficult involves a completely different