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Chapter 1. Don't Just Sit and Suffer > Four Reasons You Might Choose to Be a Vi... - Pg. 11

Don't Just Sit and Suffer 11 There are four main reasons that people make bad decisions, avoid taking action, or take the wrong actions. The first three have to do with avoidance, while the final one is a biological reason that has to do with our initial gut reactions to difficult people and our feelings of threat. Let's look at these one by one. It's important that you look at yourself to identify which of the four (or perhaps all four) reasons are relevant to you. If you become more aware of the reasons why you sometimes choose victimhood, you will be better prepared to make better, more rational decisions. Disbelief (This Can't Be Happening) Ever been in a situation where you've said to yourself, "I can't believe she said that"? Probably. One reason we fail to take action with difficult people is we don't expect them to be difficult. Most normal people don't go through life looking for trouble from others. When trouble arises unexpectedly, or someone's behavior is simply outrageous, we have a tendency to freeze, like a deer caught in the headlights--stunned. We are at a loss for words, almost disbelieving what is right in front of us. From the Manager's Desk