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Chapter 19. Difficult Colleagues > The Annoying and Frustrating - Pg. 200

Difficult Colleagues 200 From the Manager's Desk Recognize that annoying behavior doesn't have to annoy you. You are in control (or can learn to be in control) of your reactions. And doing so may add a few more happy years to your life. Sounds good to me! 2. 3. 4. When faced with that annoying behavior, remind yourself that you are allowing the person to harm you. Ask yourself whether it's truly worth it to allow someone you don't particularly care for to stress out your blood vessels and churn your stomach. Stop focusing on how annoying a person is. The more you use self-talk like "What an idiot" or "What's wrong with this person?," the more annoyed you get. Switch what you say to yourself from this negative, blaming accusatory self-talk to statements like, "Heck, this guy's not worth getting upset about" or "I'm not letting this person control my reactions." Use reality check self-talk. Ask yourself whether this person is legitimately harmful or just annoying. Talk to yourself and get things in perspective. Is that knuckle-cracking person really destructive? No. Very annoying, yes, but in the grand scheme of our short lives, why allow something unimportant to affect us? Life is too short. Remind yourself of that. What about rude people, or verbally nasty people? Here's a great self-talk me-thod to avoid