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Part II: What You Need to Know About Grief > Understanding Employees’ Feelings

Chapter 7. Understanding Employees’ Feelings

How willing are we to hear how someone else feels? “How are you?” “How’s it going?” and “What’s up today?” are frequently used as greetings. But are we really receptive to hearing that someone is angry, hurting or scared? Not only are we reluctant to hear about how another employee feels, we usually don’t want to share all that much about how we ourselves feel. Feelings…We can’t deny that they exist, yet our society generally wants that kind of communication kept private, very private.

The “OK” and “Not OK” signals about expressing anger, fear and sadness are part of our early development. Statements such as “Don’t raise your voice!” “Cry baby!” “Keep crying and I’ll really give you something to cry about!” “Don’t be a baby, there’s nothing to be afraid of”—early childhood messages about specific feelings or feelings in general—set the example for the level to which we do or do not express feelings in later life. When we get the message that feelings are “Not OK,” we tend to hold in or suppress our feelings. When a life change-loss event occurs and the normal reaction is to express appropriate anger, sadness or fear, we stuff it.


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