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Stage I—Denial

“Oh no!” “I don’t want to hear it!” This phase is characterized by changing the subject when conversations about change come up; pushing away thoughts about the painful reality; continuing to use old forms, procedures and labels. The “old guard” sticks together at lunchtime, keeping a distance from the “new people.”

These are examples of denial. Denial has an important function when a loss is about to happen or has already occurred. For many, diverting the reality of the loss makes it possible for them to gather needed inner adjustment skills. News of a death or frightening medical diagnosis is usually met with some form of denial. People actually hold their hands up with palms outward and physically push the bad news away. Loss or the threat of loss is painful to think about, and no one wants pain. Someone answers the phone, and you know they have received bad news when they cry out “NO!” We simply do not want to let it in.


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