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Chapter 4. It's All in Your Head > You Think Too Much - Pg. 34

It's All in Your Head 34 Let's look at how thoughts and feelings can influence actions, first with a rational thought and positive emotion at the root of an action: Thought:It's cold in this room, probably because the thermostat is set too low. You're Not Alone When I try to make myself do something I don't want to do, it's as if I'm in that movie, Invasion of the Body Snatchers. I know I have ultimate control over what I think and feel, but sometimes I feel like someone else is in my head telling me I don't have to do something. I feel like I'm my own worst enemy. --Adrienne G., homemaker and mother Emotional reaction:I feel uncomfortable, but I feel that I have control over the situation. I have the ability to go to the thermostat and see whether the setting is the problem. Action:I go to the thermostat and turn up the heat. Now, take a look at how an irrational thought and negative emotional reaction can lead to un- productive behavior in the same situation: Thought:It's cold in this room, probably because that useless boiler is on the blink again. Emotional reaction:I feel so angry and frustrated. Why is this hunk of metal wrecking my day? What did I do to deserve this? Action:I spend the rest of the day complaining about the cold, unable to get any work done, but not taking rational steps to see what the problem is. Adjusting the temperature in your home or office may not be something you procrastinate about or see as a major problem, but I chose this example because it illustrates the thought feeling behavior link that may be causing your procrastination in other situations. You Think Too Much Sometimes procrastinating behavior results from thinking too much. You worry about the outcome of an endeavor you're about to undertake or stew over how far behind you are on an assignment for school. Instead of following the advice of Nike to "just do it," you work yourself into a frenzy by thinking about what's wrong with your situation or what could go wrong. You end up making the task much more difficult or overwhelming than it needs to be and start feeling down on yourself for slacking off. Those feelings lead to a negative self concept and low self esteem, which in turn fuel further procrastination. Matter of Fact