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Chapter 9. Getting Your Act Together > Balancing Acts - Pg. 92

Getting Your Act Together 92 · You want to be liked. Strategy:Are people going to dislike you if you decline their invitations or requests? In most cases, people take a no much more easily than you expect them to. But people won't be too thrilled if you take on something you don't want to do or that you can't commit to fully. · You like to feel needed. Strategy:It's nice to feel that others rely on you, but commitment is a quality issue, not a quantity one. You don't have to overextend yourself to feel needed. Instead, focus on the satisfaction you get from devoting your time and energy to a select group of people and organizations, and don't let yourself get spread too thin. · You want to avoid confrontation. Strategy:It's very unlikely that anyone is going to yell and scream and stomp their feet when you say no to a request for your time. Telling someone no isn't necessarily the most pleasant exchange you'll ever have, but it's not likely to trigger World War III. · You feel flattered to be asked. Strategy:Flattery doesn't bring 25 or 35 hours to your day. Not far behind that warm and fuzzy feeling you get from the flattery is the resentment you'll feel over the time and effort you have to put into a particular project. If it's flattery you need, tell your loved ones to say nice things to you more often. · You're afraid to miss out on something. Strategy:If honoring the request is practically guaranteed to propel you closer to your personal or career goals, then do it. If not, realize that, if this opportunity came along, there will probably be more like it down the road. · You're losing sight of reality. Strategy:Some demands for your time are presented as quick and easy little blips on the cal- endar. If you tend to fall for vague promises that a particular project won't disrupt your life or take