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Chapter 13. Dirty Dishes and Other House... > Home Squalid Home - Pg. 139

Dirty Dishes and Other Household Chores 139 If some of these complaints sound familiar, see what steps you can take to minimize the conflict. One important first step may be to be more tolerant of your partner's cleaning style. Unless your home is on the verge of being condemned, cut the other person a little slack and give him or her credit for at least making an effort. If, how-ever, the division of labor in your household is very unfair, put your heads together and try working out a schedule for who does what and when it gets done. That way, cleaning chores won't have to be a constant topic of discussion. You'll only have to nag if the other person doesn't hold up his or her end of the bargain. Clearing Out Second only to exercising, clearing out cluttered spaces is the biggest procrastination problem ex- perienced by the more than 300 people who participated in the procrastination survey. (The pro- crastination survey, detailed in Appendix D, asked respondents to indicate what they tend to put off out of a list of 53 personal and work-related tasks and which of those procrastination problems causes them the most distress.) It's no wonder that it's the household chore most likely to be put off. No matter what needs to be cleared out and organized--a closet, cupboard, drawer, garage, attic, basement, car, or just a pile of boxes and old newspapers taking over a room--doing it is a big job. It takes time and energy, and it raises all sorts of psychological issues. As we sort through all the stuff, we're forced to confront the ups and downs of our weight loss, spending habits, incom- plete projects, and unfulfilled dreams. Quicksand!