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Step 4:. Introduce Consequences

A final way to add power to your assertiveness is to introduce consequences. Consequences are not threats, because they are not harmful or inappropriate. They are simply statements of what you intend to do if you do not get the cooperation or results you desire. Following are some criteria for successful consequences.

Consequences need to be stated in advance. The other person deserves an opportunity to change his or her behavior to prevent the consequence. Taking an action without prior notice could be interpreted as inappropriate and aggressive.

Consequences need to be strong but believable. The action needs to be something undesirable, but if it is too extreme, the other person will not believe that you will actually do it. Empty threats are ignored.

You must be prepared to follow through and implement the consequence if necessary. If the other person decides to test you and you do not take the action you said you would, you lose credibility and power for dealing with this person in the future. He or she may also tell others, and you will lose credibility with them, too.


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