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Technique #1—Fogging

When faced with unjustified critical feedback, force yourself to avoid counterattacks or attempts to manipulate your critic. Acknowledge the possibility that there may be some truth to the critical feedback, but do not lie or become irrational. Do not give away your self worth. Instead, use the assertiveness skill: FOGGING.

Fogging

What It Is: Calm acknowledgment of the possibility that there may be some truth in the critical feedback.
What It Does: Allows you to receive critical feedback without becoming anxious or defensive. Allows you to be the final judge of what to do about it. You become a listener instead of a mind reader.
Result: Like a fog bank, you are unaffected by manipulative, unjustified criticism. After a while, your critic finds it’s no fun to throw things at you.
Responses: “You could be right about that…”

“You might be right about…”

“What you say makes sense…”

“Perhaps I could…”




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