What do you obsess over? Do you spot a consistent theme?
What is the cause of your insecurity? What is at your core that manifests itself in obsession and defense?
Do you take responsibility for your actions and reactions or do you put it on other people?
What can you do, in terms of priority or time management, to be sure that you are always completely prepared before a meeting?
How do you feel about confrontational action? What sort of preparation can help steel your courage?
Would you rather be “safe” and unhappy or free and happy?
What are you doing to ensure that you have the backing in the marketplace and in your bank account to take a risk that might cost you your job?
How much difficulty can you live with before you start to change from the person you love into someone you don’t even recognize? What is worth this?
Do you realize that your managers are not omniscient and that if you have a track record for good judgment, solid results, and unquestionable ethics, you are more likely to be heard?
Have you done everything possible to make a difficult situation more palatable?
Does empathy with a manager’s situation and stress level help you to see the issue more clearly, perhaps to your advantage?